In the Red Table Talk with Pastor John Gray and his wife, Jada Pinkett Smith also told the pastor and her family she’s learning more about herself now that she feels she can take the time to do so. For example, she often has to “take a breath” and “recognize I’m in fight” mode when she’s dealing with conflict. But the learning isn’t just extending to herself, it’s extending to her partner of 22 years Will Smith, too. She noted: